Insights from Pediatric Dentist, Dr. Maggie Davis
When it comes to teaching kids how to brush their teeth, many parents assume it should come naturally. But according to pediatric dentist Dr. Maggie Davis, it’s often more complicated than that and that’s completely normal.
Dr. Maggie Davis of Dr. Maggie Davis and Associates in Palm Harbor, Florida, has been practicing pediatric dentistry for over 18 years. Through her experience, she’s seen firsthand where families tend to struggle and how small shifts can make a big difference. Today she’s sharing a couple lessons she’s supported parents with over the years and we hope they help you too.
Brushing Isn’t Just About Willpower, It’s About Development
One of the most common misconceptions is that young children should be able to brush their teeth independently and effectively. In reality, brushing requires fine motor skills and dexterity, something that takes time to develop.
“We typically see that level of dexterity around the age when children can tie their shoes, which is around seven,” Dr. Davis explains.
Until then, children need guidance, practice, and support. Brushing is a learned skill not something kids just “figure out.”
The Flavor Problem Parents Don’t Always See
Another common issue? Flavor.
Many traditional toothpastes are minty or spicy, which can be overwhelming for kids, especially those with sensory sensitivities.
“Sometimes parents are forcing their children to brush with a flavor they don’t like, and they don’t understand why the child is pulling away,” says Dr. Davis.
For kids, that discomfort can quickly turn brushing into something they want to avoid altogether.
It Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect
One of the most reassuring things Dr. Davis shares with parents is this:
Brushing doesn’t have to be perfect, especially in the beginning.
“Parents want it all to be perfect, but sometimes it’s not going to be. Things improve with time.”
Children are learning. They’re building habits. And like anything new, it takes patience.
Why Making Brushing Fun Actually Works
Instead of forcing routines, Dr. Davis encourages parents to lean into play and choice.
“Giving your child options — like choosing their flavor, color, or how they brush — can make a big difference.”
When kids feel involved, brushing becomes something they want to do, not something they’re being told to do. The average child brushes for about 62 seconds, while the recommended time is two minutes. When brushing feels fun and engaging, kids are more likely to stay with it longer — and build better habits over time.
Building Confidence First, Habits Second
At the end of the day, brushing isn’t just about technique. It’s about confidence, comfort, and consistency.
“If you can help a child feel comfortable and even enjoy brushing early on, it becomes much easier down the road.”
That’s why approaches that prioritize play, creativity, and positive experiences like Smile Paint can be so impactful.
A Gentle Reminder for Parents
If brushing feels like a struggle right now, you’re not doing anything wrong.
You’re teaching a skill.
You’re building a habit.
And most importantly you’re supporting your child through the process.
With time, patience, and the right approach, it does get easier.
Dr. Maggie Davis, DMD
A Board-Certified Pediatric Dentist and Diplomate of the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, a distinction achieved by fewer than three percent of dentists, Dr. Maggie is deeply committed to excellence in patient care and lifelong learning. She completes more than 50 hours of continuing education annually and has advanced certifications in pediatric sedation, infant and pediatric laser tongue and lip ties, and pediatric zirconia crowns.
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